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Part 46 |
The View from Nongkhai |
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18 March |
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Recent books |
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While I was in Indonesia last year, my daughter
loaned me one of her books entitled 'Our Babies,
Ourselves', and subtitled 'How Biology and
Culture Shape the Way We Parent'. It is
written by anthropologist Meredith Small, and takes
a look at babies from the viewpoint of evolutionary
biology, and almost naturally follows on from
Richard Dawkins 'Ancestor's Tale'.
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The book makes the point that
children are not just miniature versions of adults
and that there are sound evolutionary reasons why
infants and children look and behave the way they
do. We are primates, a kind of mammal, more closely
related to chimpanzees than chimpanzees are to
gorillas, and our babies are animal babies. During
most of human history and prehistory, and in most
cultures today, babies and their mothers are reunited
immediately after birth. Only in the West in the
last 90 or so years of our at least two-million-year
history as a species have babies been separated from
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An anthropologist studying a
forest tribe in Paraguay (the Ache) was taken aside
by an older woman of the tribe who told her that she
must sleep with her baby. The tribe were
horrified that she had a basket with her for the
baby to sleep in. This was a group of forest
hunter-gatherers, giving instructions to a highly
educated woman from a technologically sophisticated
culture. |
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In the
early seventies,
my wife and I did what we were told was 'the right
thing' when our children were born, and as a result our children slept alone, usually in an
adjacent room. |
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Having
read 'Our Babies, Ourselves', I think Sue and I were
wrong, and the Ache are right. It pleases me that my
daughter Jacq
is not doing as her
mother and I did, but like the Ache, is sleeping
with her baby. |
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For
anyone with infants or young children who cares
about their development, 'Our Babies, Ourselves' is
a must. |
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I took
this photo in Indonesia last year just before we
left. I think it is a lovely picture of my daughter
Jacq, and her daughter Anisa. I am looking forward
so much to seeing them next month. |
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Less than welcome News |
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Most Nongkhai readers will already be aware of
the very recent death of (Kiwi) Sam, but perhaps those
overseas will not. Sam was an Octogenarian from
New Zealand who had made his home in Nongkhai,
still enjoyed a beer, and riding his motorbike.
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Mostly he enjoyed these
activities separately, but from time to time he
would enjoy them together, and was renowned for his
occasional tumbles, from which he never seemed to
come to much harm. |
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Sam had one such tumble
recently, and again seemed to have come to no
harm, but he
died peacefully at home in his sleep a few days
later. It is quite probable that his death was
nothing to do with the fall. Above Sam enjoying a
beer with Giulio and guest celebrity Telly Savalas
at the Meeting Place, and left Sam and his wife
enjoy a Spy Wine Cooler at Giulio's first curry
evening. |
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via email from Rupert : VERY
SNEAKY I SEE. WELL AT LEAST YOU HAD THE DECENCY TO
SHOW A PIC OF ME SMILING. ANYWAY NOW THAT IM CHEF
OF THE YEAR HERE ( WELL IN BROWNS AT LEAST ) I AM
PERFECTLY POISED TO CONQUER THE WORLD. SOON ILL BE
ABLE TO AFFORD STYLISTS , PERSONAL TRAINERS , AND
PEOPLE TO HUNT DOWN BAD EX PICTURES OF ME AND
DESTROY THEIR MAKERS. WELL THATS THE THEORY
ANYWAY. MWA HA HA HA HA HA HAHHHHHHHHH
.....................ETC. YOUR LUCKY IM NOT FROM
SCOTLAND OR ID GET A PERSECUTION COMPLEX ABOUT YOU
PICKING ON ME . |
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Sorry Rupert, but I just couldn't resist including
your further comments, together with a picture of
you not smiling. The sweat on your forehead combines
brilliantly with the red-eye. Guess those hunters
will now be working overtime? Lucky for me that I'm
leaving the country next week! |
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I included this picture of John in the last episode,
but had forgotten the name of his son Daniel. I
found it when looking through earlier episodes to
part 36 when he was
asleep on a table in the Outback after apparently
drinking four beers. See part 36 for the various
jokes. He has grown a lot since then. |
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By strange co-incidence that same episode 36 also
featured
Derrick with girlfriend Noot in the Outback bar, but
on that occasion Derrick was wearing a Beer Laos
T-shirt rather than the Beer Chang T-shirt shown
here. I wonder whether Derrick follows Pete's custom
of wearing sponsored clothing? I find Derrick and
John look similar, although in this photo of them
together the differences are more apparent, but look
at the photo below, and see how quickly you can
identify which one of them it is. |
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Given that it is in fact John left in the motorcycle
'colours' and Derrick above in them, I did accuse
them of trying to cause deliberate confusion, rather
as Ian and I used to do. (
Part 09 ). Naturally they denied it, but then I
spotted that they have different tattoos. In fact in
the photo above you can't see Derrick's tattoos at
all, because they are hidden by the sleeves of his
T-shirt. |
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John has taken over the Two Wheels biker bar which
is of course the reason that John insisted they pose
in front of the Two Wheels sign. John is slowly
changing the menu to a more international cuisine. It sounds interesting. I
wish him well and look forward to eating there. |
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Another recent book loan was ' The Paradox of
Choice' subtitled 'Why more is less', by Barry
Schwartz. Barry makes the point that when choosing
anything, the first choice you make is between the
goal of choosing absolutely the best and the goal of
choosing something that is good enough. If you seek
and accept only the best you are a 'maximizer'. The
alternative to maximizing is to be a 'satisficer'. I
am a satisficer. |
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Barry
develops the argument that the drawbacks of
maximizing are so profound and the benefits so
tenuous that we may well ask why anyone would pursue
such a strategy. The first explanation is that many
maximizers may be unaware of this tendency in
themselves, and the second is a concern with status,
where only 'the best' assures success in a
competition with everybody else. |
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It is
often assumed that more choice means better options
and greater satisfaction, but choice overload can
make you question the decisions you make before you
even make them. Barry makes the counterintuitive
case that eliminating choices can greatly reduce the
stress, anxiety and busyness of people's lives. As a
satisficer myself, I consider that if stress,
anxiety and busyness
are reduced, one should be less unhappy, that is to
say, one should be happier. I wrote about money and
happiness in part 40. |
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There is a saying in English about knowing the price
of everything and the value of nothing. To me this
is akin to maximizing, but for reasons that I hope
are completely obscure to all but one other, I am
going to call such knowledge 'choconomics'. I will
be developing the theme of choconomics in future
episodes. |
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I wonder how many other
people spotted this sign in Pattaya? It appears to
be an apartment block named 'Shagwell Court'. Hm,
well I also wonder who dreamt up that name? |
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Although the colour
scheme may be a little off-putting, Dan and I were
pleasantly surprised by the standard offered at this
hotel for a modest 550 baht per night. It has the
delightful name of the 'Crystal Palace'. |
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On
the left we have an ordinary beach scene from
Pattaya, but what is that in the background? Yes, it is
a submarine. Surely not a common sight at the beach,
but no-one apart from me appeared to take any notice. |
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In
past episodes featuring
Dan, he has always
suffered from a deluge of Thai women wishing to know
him. To some extent his time in
February staying in the Magic Kingdom was much the
same, but this time there was a subtle
difference. Dan had met a girl called Bia (or
Beer) in Pattaya, and had decided that she was someone
special. So special in fact that in his wish to know Bia he
rejected a
lot of offers from other women who wanted to know
him. |
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It was with that classic Thai irony therefore that on
the night Dan forfeited his chances to know so many
other women, and staked it all on knowing Bia, she received
a call from her Australian boyfriend asking her to
go and live with him. |
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What was she to do? She
couldn't decide and turned to Dan for advice. Perhaps not
surprisingly, Dan found this an incredible turn-off.
So although he understood Bia a lot better, he never
got to know her. Personally, I found it completely hilarious. |
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Nevertheless, it wasn't all bad
news, as Dan managed to meet up with this teenager
the next evening and get to know her. Her name is Ghai, which some will
recognise as the Thai word for chicken.
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While Dan was having in his words
'an amazing time' getting to know Ghai, I was with 'A'
(right). The
look on her face gives you a good idea what sort of time I had
with A. |
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Royal Cliff Hotel Pattaya Re-visited |
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While Dan and I do not
pretend to be epicures, we do nevertheless appreciate the various
(some subtle) ingredients of a fine meal. Apart from
the obvious (food), one must also consider, inter
alia, ambience, service, wine and presentation. When
we first came to La La Land in 1984 (although then
we called it Pattaya) we stayed at the Royal Cliff
Hotel. And yes these photos taken in the Royal Cliff
of myself with Eet and Dan with Jim
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Close to the Dusit
Resort, at the north end of
Pattaya there used to be a fine Italian restaurant
called 'La Gritta'. Dan and I have enjoyed some
excellent meals there in the past, but like so many
things in Pattaya, it has gone. So Dan and I headed
to S. Pattaya and Jomtien in search of a suitable
replacement, and eventually found ourselves in a
fine Italian restaurant that is now a part of the
Royal Cliff complex. (It was a hotel, now it is a
'complex'). They offer a menu of the week for a
modest figure per head. As it was six, yes, 6
courses, and meant that we did not have to
deliberate over the menu we opted for it. |
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Ambience: We had this delightful trio
playing Spanish style music during our meal. We were
NOT hassled to tip them, or to choose tunes in order
to solicit payment, they were very good!
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Food: I intended to keep the menu to refer
to, but failed. Apart from the antipasto (not
pictured) and selection of Italian bread including
breadsticks which I adore, our first listed course
was Porchetta (centre above). I have no memory of
eating Porchetta before, but I would definitely eat
it again. I didn't photograph the second (soup)
course of double baked rabbit consommé with date
garnish, but (almost) needless to say it was
again delicious. The third course was potatoes and bacon
bits, but had a fancy Italian name which escapes me. Yes
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Wine: Dan graciously deferred to me on the
choice of wine. I was perhaps lucky to make a choice
of a 2004 Medoc which turned out to be the perfect
complement to our meal. |
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Food: (continued) The main course was a
medallion of steak, which was cooked to perfection
and melted in the mouth. Suitable words to describe it
are beyond me. You would have had to have eaten it to
understand. The fifth course (centre) looks a bit
like ice-cream, but was naturally far more. Again
delicious. |
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Immaculate. We even had synchronised lifting of
plate covers, which I persuaded them to re-enact for
the benefit of the camera, much to Dan's amusement.
Perhaps the bonus was that the waiter serving Dan
came from Udonthani, while the waitress serving me
came from Nongkhai. We joked that the wafer bridging
the plate in the dessert represented the Thai-Laos
Friendship Bridge. |
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I hope that my photos do justice to the
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Just
writing about the experience makes me want to go
back again and again. It was a wonderful meal that
was a true delight to all of the senses. It is
almost impossible to believe that it cost just £50
(80 Euros) for the two of us. |
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As I
now know Dao fairly well, somehow, sometime I agreed to go
to the wedding of her younger brother Am (centre,
Dao is far left) in Kalasin. The word fiasco does
not fall easily from my lips, especially in Thailand
where such events are not
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at all rare, but getting to the wedding proved somewhat
more difficult than even I had expected. At one point I saw
it as a test of my stamina to see the thing through. In the
end I did get to the remote rural village where the ceremony
was being held, and thoroughly enjoyed myself. |
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Attention to detail |
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Almost exactly half way between
Pattaya and Nongkhai lies the village of Pakthongchai. I
really don't like driving 700 kms from Nongkhai to Pattaya
in a day, and prefer to stop there or at nearby Korat, and
break the journey in two. Pakthongchai was recommended to me
by Ajarn Jon (right showing a lot of premature grey
amongst those once golden locks). The picture of Jon was
taken in José's in the company of Brian and José, whose
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Jon must have seen this statue on
a number of occasions, but I wonder has he observed as I did
the attention to detail paid by the creator of this great
work of art?
Brian kindly gave me permission
to use his photo and his name, but perversely not at the
same time. |
As I have used
Brian's name, I can't use his picture, so I decided to give
this statue the name Brian. |
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The English
language in
Thailand |
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This sign is to be found in
Nongkhai and was part of the inspiration for this theme. The
other part of the inspiration was my friend Kim, who has
been feeling somewhat neglected as he hasn't had a mention
of late. So here is
a picture of Kim with fellow Dane Bent, currently visiting
Nongkhai, sharing a
joke. |
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This is a
simple mistranslation, and is trying to advertise
second-hand computers. |
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In Sakhon
Nakhon the Highways Department have put this old road roller
on public display, while the choice in Udonthani was this
bulldozer. |
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Dan was very
taken with this fun tissue dispenser that we found in a
coffee bar in Udonthani. The tissues are dispensed not
without difficulty through the nose.
Dan insisted that the head bore
an uncanny resemblance to someone that we both knew living
in Nongkhai, but speaking for myself, I couldn't see any
similarity. |
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Next week I
head to the UK for a couple of months. I am looking forward
to seeing all my friends and family, but am not looking
forward to two months in the United Kingdom. I left UK
shortly after Tony Blair and Labour came to power. In that
time, more than three thousand, yes, 3,000 new criminal
offences have been created under Labour. There are now
4,000,000 (four million) spy cameras (Britain leads the
world in something) and a higher percentage of the
population is in jail than anywhere else in western Europe.
I will be dividing my time between looking over my shoulder
to see which of the 3,000 new offences I might be committing
while I am in the UK, and looking forward to coming home to
Thailand. |
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My thanks to the Financial Times
of February 3/4 for the figures quoted. |
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OK that's
enough for this episode. There will be a bit of a gap until
the next episode for which I apologise, but it is not
practical to publish while I am in the UK. On Tuesday Kim,
Ou, May and I are off to La La Land, from where I will head
to Suvarnabhumi and England next weekend. |
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In La La Land
I hope to see more of Noi (asleep far left) and
Jane, but you'll have to wait for episode 47 in May to find
out what happened. |
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Best Wishes to you all
Tony |
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photos, or want to write, but you don't know
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