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Ethical Hedonism |
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On the opening page I defined our
purpose as being to amuse, entertain, and occasionally to
inform. Ethical Hedonism recognises that one has to
enjoy oneself where one gets the chance these days, but
that rather than immerse oneself in such diversions, one
ought always to behave in a reasonably responsible
manner, never losing sight of the more general moral
issues and their manifestations in society.
‘Have fun, be nice, veer left, and never stop
thinking, is what it boils down to.’
With
thanks to Ian Banks, with whom I would agree, perhaps it is easier
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Six years
ago today (11th November) I arrived in Thailand, just
ahead of my 53rd birthday. I had come to Thailand many
times before for holidays, but this time was different
because I had made the decision to retire from work in
UK and to live here. In a life littered with mistakes
and bad decisions, this is one decision about which I
have never had the slightest regret. Indeed I give
thanks almost daily that the path of my life has led me
to Thailand, and provided me with the means
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Comments on
Episode 24 |
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From Jon (left) "I feel bad when my
picture appears in the latest episode, but I feel worse when it
doesn't." (Shades of Oscar Wilde methinks).
From Brendan (right) "Why is it that
José always look good in photos, but I don't?" |
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From
Kean, "I thought that Alice was Graham's mother." |
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Via
email from Andrew, "Thank you Tony . Entertaining as
usual. Pleased to finally get to see Auntie Alice and also to
see Kevin and Amorn who had stopped trips from Lom Sak to NK for
about a year. I'm doing time in NZ now after w***ing round
Thailand and Cambodia for 4 months. A cruel punishment." |
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From
Doughnut, "The dog formerly known as Poom Pouilly (or 'little
legs' as we dogs know him), has now been formally named 'Ratboy'
by Giulio and Nigel. |
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From
Derrick, "I laughed out loud at Dr José's diagnostic technique."
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From
Nigel (left), " You ain't got my picture in this episode."
From Virginia, "If I hadn't read
episode 24, I wouldn't have been here at the Indian food
evening." Which provides an easy link to :- |
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Indian Food Evening
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For those nine
brave souls who attended, (Virginia, Don, Micky, Dan, Nigel,
Ken, Sam, Jeff and myself) it was an undoubted success! We had
tasty poppadums with a delicious mango chutney as an appetiser.
After a suitable interval, this was followed with a vegetable
samosa, onion bhajee, and chicken tandoori. Finally we were
faced with a choice. Should it be Beef Rogan Josh, Chicken Tikka
Massala, or Chicken Korma, all on a bed of Pilau rice. Most of
us couldn't choose one over the others, so we chose to have some
of each. All of the food was excellent. It was a real treat to
taste good Indian food, for which Giulio deserves an enormous
thank you. (coupled with a big apology from me for mis-spelling
his name in previous episodes). |
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Nigel with
Micky (fully beringed) |
Don |
Sam |
Jeff 'no mates' |
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Sadly the
verdict of our hosts Paul and Giulio was that the
evening was not a success. Giulio had spent all day
making the food, and barely covered the cost of the
ingredients. I know he appreciated our happy faces and
effusive thanks (not to mention
Dan's swollen belly left), but he would have
liked to have made a profit too. So there are no plans
for a repeat. Shame!
However
Paul is thinking of putting on a 'Western' evening, but
instead of making it an 'all you can eat buffet' for a
single price, he will have a special 'Western' menu for
the evening with a variety of dishes from burgers to
ribs to steaks at corresponding prices. A good idea! |
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A's bookshop |
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On more than one occasion I have made
reference to 'The Celestine Prophecy', a book I have read a
number of times. The book leads you
towards nine key insights. The First Insight occurs when we
become conscious of the coincidences in our lives, and I have
made reference to the coincidences in my own life in several
previous episodes.
So when I was visiting A's bookshop
(located near the Mutmee Guesthouse) I was very pleased to find
another book by James Redfield entitled 'The Tenth Insight',
which I duly purchased. I imagine that you will be hearing about
it in future episodes. |
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Brendan & Noi's Riverside Restaurant |
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In October I was
in Brendan's, in the company of Brian and Jon, and I mentioned
in
the coincidence that we were all born on the same day, but
exactly 10 years apart. Earlier this month I was again in
Brendan's, and was introduced to another Tony also from UK. I
had already spotted Oz Tony (far left standing on tip-toe) in
the bar, so I asked Noi to take a photo of the three of us
together. UK Tony (near left) has a bar in Nongkhai with the
snappy name of "Tony's Riverside Guest House Bar & Restaurant".
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Also in Brendan's
that evening were my near-neighbour Stan and his wife Sue, while
in the background is Jimmy aka 'the Schmear'. Jimmy was worried
about his appearance in the photo, and he wanted me to use
computer software to make him look good. Sadly I had to tell
him, 'Jimmy there is no computer software on Earth that would
make you look good, and if there was Brendan would have
monopolised it, so that he could look good like José'
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Stan has, like so
many others this month, suffered his first bout of
PADS (Physiognomy
Acquisition Deficiency
Syndrome). Mind you, you can hardly
blame him. Ian was standing outside my
house, wearing my brand of
T-shirt. Stan was cycling past on his way home from the gym when
Ian shouted 'hello' across to him. It's not that far-fetched
that Stan should think it was me.
When I saw Stan
later at Brendan's, he took me aside and confided that Ian had
been trying to borrow money from him. Ian had variously offered
my car,
my wife and
Doughnut as security. |
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Despite, (or could it be because) it
only serves Thai food, the number of Nongkhai's farang residents
who have been going there to eat, and who have returned again
and again has been growing steadily. As well as the good food,
there is a family atmosphere not seen elsewhere, with the
children playing together outside, once they have finished their
food and the adults are busy talking. Left Kim and wife Oo! dine
with friends. (The exclamation mark is to emphasise that her
name is a short emphatic Oo, rather than a long drawn out Ooooo
sound).
Hula-hooping has become the rage,
with various degrees of ability being exhibited. |
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Manao : expert |
Bombim : expert |
Oo! : novice |
Oo! looking lovely |
Manao & Aunty Dott |
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Graham's
Aunty Alice |
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Aunt Alice arrived
at the end of October, and gave Nongkhai a good try. Right with
Graham in Brendan's where they had fish and chips (below left).
Best of all she
loved going on the back of Graham's motorbike (below right),
pretty amazing for a 92 year old. But in the end she missed her
house in the UK, being surrounded by her possessions, and having
her familiar routines, so after two weeks of ethical hedonism,
she headed back to the cold and damp that is UK this month. |
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There will be very few who can't learn something from |
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courage in at least trying a whole new life !! |
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An appeal
for the underprivileged |
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I don't want to
preach to my readers, but those of use who enjoy the privilege
of living in Nongkhai should from time to time spare a thought
for those not so fortunate as ourselves. So I want to make a
plea on behalf of those who don't live in Nongkhai for any help
you can give. I am of course referring to those poor distressed
souls who have to live out their lives in Udonthani.
Look at the
picture of this poor wretch on the right. I don't know his name,
so lets call him 'John'. 'John' makes his living collecting
plastic bags on the streets of Udonthani. Just imagine having to
wear such clothing day in day out! Here we see him with the
results of a days collecting. So please save your plastic bags,
and help "John'. |
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Left is a good
friend of mine with his wife Puy. Coincidentally his name really
is John but that (apart from living in Udonthani) is the only
thing that he shares with poor victim 'John' above. You can see
that my friend John is relaxed, happy, well dressed, and has a
lovely wife.
You can play your
part! By collecting plastic bags together, we can turn poor
victim 'John' above into a happy fulfilled man, just like my
friend the real John.
I want to thank
John for letting me use his photo for this appeal. If I knew the
identity of the 'John' above, I would want to thank him too. |
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Three birds
with One stone : More Italians |
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Just outside
Udonthani(1) lives my Italian(2)
friend who also shares the name Tony(3).
His wife Tuy comes from the village in which I used to live, and
her father was one of my close friends. So I have known Tony
since Tuy brought him home to meet her mother and father
some years ago. Tony and Tuy spent some years together in Italy
working and saving for their return to Thailand. They came back
earlier this year and have now started a business in the
village. Tony runs a 'games' shop for the boys of the village,
while Tuy runs a beauty salon next door.
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Left, Tony and I
shared a beer or two, while right, Dott took the opportunity to
get her hair washed by Tuy. |
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Another of my
friends from the village is Noi, below left. She has a lovely
cheerful disposition, so while I was in the village, I popped
round to her shop/restaurant to say hello. Centre below, I
wonder whether you can guess what it is that connects Tony above
with the Italian Stallion below? Finally below right, we are now
in the cool season, when it is cool and dry, and we harvest the
rice crop. But as I write this it is 30°C in the house, and
yesterday when I was in Udonthani, there was a sudden downpour,
and this wonderful double rainbow appeared. By driving along in
the rain with the window open, the camera in one hand and the
steering wheel in the other, I managed to get this photo without
crashing the car, but it was interesting for a while.
Rainbows tend to be much rarer here because the weather is
usually one thing or the other, but this November it has been
topsy-turvey.
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Nongkhai's
Meeting Place |
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I have already
mentioned the
Indian Food Evening at the Meeting Place, when they served
chicken tikka massala and chicken korma on pilau rice,
but they get another mention because I laughed out loud when I
saw this written on the notice board a few days later. (In case
you can't read it, the notice board was sponsored by
www.thaigirlsingle.com).
I had enjoyed the food so much that I
persuaded Dott to come with me and try it. Although initially
reluctant, she did try and did enjoy it. |
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OK That's enough for this
episode. I really did not expect to be publishing episode 25 so quickly,
but I have to confess that I was inspired by comments made by my friend
John in Udonthani. (The real schoolteacher John that is. You may be
shocked to learn that I made up the bit about victim 'John' the bag
collector for your amusement). In the next episode I expect to be be writing about
Carsten's VI birthday party, Loy Kratong,
my birthday, Thanksgiving at Dr
José's, and
anything else that I think might amuse or interest you.
If you want to write to us, but you don't know
any of our other email addresses, you can email us at
mail@nongkhai.co.uk
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Best Wishes to
all our readers
Tony and Dott 
P.S. Doughnut says 'Woofs
to all readers'. I liked that nice lady who has moved in next
door, shame that she has gone, but I've discovered that Stan & Sue have
a very attractive girl dog looking after them. |
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